Father’s day in NZ falls on the first Sunday of September. That’s this coming Sunday. I think this is probably the first year I’m prepared for it.
My husband is very hard to buy for. His favourite pastime used to be surfing trademe (NZ’s eBay equivalent) (his new favourite site is kayak fishing NZ, more on that soon) and if he needs something he will find and buy it there. Let’s say he’s a bit of a shopaholic. He is very good at finding a good deal and for the most part of it, he rarely buys unnecessarily. So come birthdays, Christmas and father’s day, it is very hard to come up with anything. And to be honest I don’t always get him something, sometimes I cook him his favourite dish, other times we just go somewhere a bit special. He’s the same with me, I don’t always get something special on my special days but sometimes on a perfectly ordinary day, he would surprise me with something special.
However this year, I have not one but two surprises in store for him. All thanks to his new hobby, kayak fishing. He took it up in January this year and since then has been fishing at least once every single week. He’s like a different person. It gives him so much enjoyment. Even more surprisingly, he has really taken to the kayak fishing website. He spends hours on it everyday, reading about trip reports from other members, commenting, planning and dreaming of the next big fish.
I have to admit in the beginning I was getting quite jealous of all this time he’s spending on his fishing. Those first few months it took us a while to adjust to this new hobby. I think the last few months we have finally been able to find a compromise. He can go fishing so long as he reserves one weekend day to spend with his girls. It’s actually quite nice that way because the girls and I can visit with grandma or go out with my sister. And when he spends his day with us, he’s completely there for us, refreshed after a day out at sea.
The only problem with this scenario is the fish. Cooking fish is not something I’m completely comfortable with. The scaling, gutting, etc, not fun. Even when he does those for me, I will need to either fillet or cut the fish into steaks. I can cook it whole but that reduces my cooking options. Moreover, I’m not particularly fond of fish. I didn’t know this until I had this overflow supply of fish.
Whenever I tell him of my reluctance to cook his fish, he tells me we need to get a deep fryer. And I’ve always said NO! Deep fryer? Do we need another reason to eat unhealthy food? Do we have space in our cluttered kitchen for a deep fryer? And once that fryer has been used to cook his fish, it will smell all fishy and we can’t use it for anything else (I know, I don’t need it for anything else!). However after giving it more thought, and the fact that I really don’t enjoy filleting his fish and all that comes with that (sharp fins! scales all over my kitchen! blunt knives! fishiness that permeates the whole house!), I have been persuaded to get one, and what better time to present this than on father’s day!
On top of that, the girls and I have collected his best fishing/kayaking photos and made a collage on snapfish. It looks awesome! Now we just need to get a frame for it. Maybe May will make a colourful one for him.
PS. I promise I will still attempt to cook his fish in other styles, steaming, grilling… but it’s nice to have this option for days when I just can’t be bothered.